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at a bedpost? After getting hopelessly lost in Boston, did you explode at the
Pilgrims who laid the trails? Does a shaving incision push your "Hemmingway
button" and prompt you to send King Gillette's heirs a "nasty gram?"
Have you run out of fuel lately? It's the price of gas, stupid!
Anger Institute Founder and Executive Director Mitch Messer combined George Raft's Tommy-gun-tough-guy delivery with Henny Youngman's deadpan twinkle to explain how foolishly debilitating our anger can be during an engagingly interactive March 31 presentation to the Executive Network Group (ENG) entitled "Managing Anger: What is the Key?" Messer's opening remarks dangled like a baited hook beneath a still pond's surface at sunrise: "Nice people aren't supposed to be angry, let alone talk about it in broad daylight. How can you cure a problem that you're not supposed to talk about?" Dead silence. "It drives you crazy, very frustrating." What's frustration, he asked. More silence led to, "Well, you're oh-for-two, aren't you?" Catatonia's towering tide thundered over the ENG membership. His next inquiry: How shall we deal with our anger when it's considered impolite to discuss a vice? Messer's conclusion is that our inability to vocalize a problem sweeps us into a vicious vortex: We're angry, can't talk about it, get frustrated, turn inward, and get depressed, which makes us … even angrier. Messer's mantra is to turn rage into rewarding relationships. He works on a deeply spiritual plane, turning the blackness of regret, sorrow, and anger into a blaze of acceptance, understanding, and mutual respect. A key insight is that "I'm sorry" sometimes expresses neither error nor weakness, just the simple desire that things were otherwise. Dealing with anger is to understand that Fate accompanies us on every step down life's occasionally gloomy, always uncertain tunnel toward every outcome. Messer embraces a profound theory: mutual respect defines humanity and managing anger is at the very root of a happy, productive, fulfilling life. Contact information:
Voice: 312/263-0035 -- by R. T. Jones (4/15/2005) *************************************** Mitch Messer received his Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology from Roosevelt University and went on to do his advanced work in abnormal psychology at the Alfred Adler Institute of Chicago. He has served with the Suicide Prevention Service of the State of Illinois Department of Mental Health, the Illinois Crime Commission, and has been a management consultant to such companies as AT&T and Ameritech. He is a member of The North American Society of Adlerian Psychology, The Chicago Psychological Association, and The International Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Mitch is the founder and director of the Anger Clinic and conducts Anger Management Workshop programs for organizations and corporations across the country. He has appeared as a guest on many local and national radio and television programs. Mitch is a Licensed Professional Counselor with offices in Skokie and Chicago. Mitch's books include: Managing Anger, The Socratic Questions,
Anger Intelligence, Anatomy of Violence, Allergic to Happiness,
Soft Answers, The Suicide Dialogues, 21st Century Conflict
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